Keeping Thanksgiving traditions alive after the loss of loved ones
There’s plenty of days in the year that we spend with our families. Tomorrow, you’ll get together for Thanksgiving. But family gatherings can be difficult for some.
After losing her mother, Damara Bolton is surviving the holidays this year by making new traditions with her husband’s family.
“My mom passed away 7 and a half years ago and she always made them very special,” Bolton says.
One by one, Damara is pulling out old cooking books with her mother’s favorite recipes. It’s her way of keeping those traditions alive and her mom close to her heart.
“I have a lot of traditions that we had and a lot of recipes she always made,” Bolton says. “I have her recipe box and I have my grandmother’s recipes too, so if I get sad or stressed out, I can always go to that and remember that they are with me through all of it and that’s what gets me through.”
Damara isn’t alone. Last November, she said “I do” to her husband, Victor.
“Since I was the newlywed in the family, we wanted to have a holiday here,” she says. “I just want everything to be perfect, you know, and I think that’s the stress on me. Is it all going to be done on time? Is it going to be ready? Is everyone going to be here on time? Is it going to taste good?”
Damara is finding comfort through her mother’s traditions and hoping to create new traditions with her husband’s family, building lasting memories for the years to come.
“I’m just glad we all get to be together and I’m really thankful that everyone gets to come here this year for it and that I get to be a part of it,” she says.