"Resilient love is when love is not an ordeal but a habit, so that when they lie about you next week, or you face unsurmountable tasks, you just bounce back through perserverance. It is when you are not even aware anymore that you do it."
I like to think of mine and David's love as just that, resilient! We met in high school but never really hung out. He was one of my older brothers friends. Fast forward 10 years and we both were divorced and ended up at my brother's house to visit on the same day. We have been inseparable ever since. Sounds like a typical love story but there is so much more to it.
I have 4 children and David has 2! Relationships are hard enough without children but somehow everything fell into place for us, but not without challenges or people talking and trying to tell us we were crazy. I am so grateful to have met someone who not only loves me but loves my 4 children. He has never once complained about having to deal with 6 kids. And let me tell you life can get pretty crazy with 12,10,10,7,6,and 5 year olds. On top of that 1 year into our relationship I found out that I had a heart defect and had to have open heart surgery! I dont know too many people who would have stuck by me and helped me with my kids. There have been times I felt like such a burden knowing he could have a much easier life with someone else with fewer kids and fewer health issues but he has not once said anything other than how much he loves me and that "this" is where he wants to be. I dont want to miss the opportunity to express how lucky I am to have found what I found in David.
Loving him has made me realize that people who have successful relationships, do not have perfect relationships. They work together and have that resilient ability to bounce back no matter what anyone says, thinks or does and no matter what mountains may come their way. We will have been together 5 years on April 28th. We dont get as much alone time as we would like but when we do, we enjoy our time together. Im thankful that he spends his free time with me when he doesnt have too. Sometimes I think God placed him in my life at this moment because he knew David would be the best man for the job ahead! I am blessed to be loved by him and blessed with 4 wonderful children of my own and 2 sweet and sassy girls that I have watched grow over the last 5 years!