I have never met a more dedicated father in my life! Jay has shown me that father and daddy are NOT one in the same. Anyone can be a father, a sperm donor and create a child but it takes someone special to stand up and be there financially and emotionally for their children. It is sad that these days, fathers who stick around and help raise their children are a minority. What is even more amazing are the few men who take on raising and loving a child or children who are not theirs biologically. Jay is one of these men and we are so blessed and grateful to have him! When I met Jay 3 years ago, one of the first things I said to him before we got to far into talking to each other, was "I have a special needs child." He asked some questions and I sent him a link to Chance's website so he could read for himself what he would be getting himself into if we chose to go further into a relationship. Chance is not even an "ordinary" special needs child. Chance is the only person in the world to have the combination of brain anomalies he was born with. I couldn't imagine a man wanting to put himself in a relationship with me, four children and the youngest being as medically complex as he is.
All of my uneasiness, worries, thoughts, doubts etc. vanished the moment Jay and Chance laid eyes on one another. Here I felt my love for Jay was "love at first sight" and that we were soul mates but truthfully now, looking back, it was Jay and Chance who were meant to be. From the shape of their head being identical to their eyes and their personality! And the fact that Chance could barely talk and taught himself how to say "Daddy" on his own (as no one in the house called Jay "Daddy" and we didn't teach him to) is more proof than I need that they were meant to be together! Now, Jay is wonderful with his own two daughters, Danielle (20) and Taylor (15) and my 3 oldest Tyler (16), Kaylee (13) and Spencer (12) but he and Chance have something special.
I never knew my father and my grandfather passed away when Tyler was 2. Now, to have Jay in their lives to take them fishing, hunting, play football, be there for their games, practices, and to protect my now teenage daughter from the likes of the Ballard County boys is a blessing!! (Just kidding about the Ballard Co boys!!) I have never met a man who is more deserving of recognition for being an outstanding father than Jay!